Nisgardatta Maharaj was often asked by his visitors  why he so rarely used the word “love”in his exposition of the true nature of man. The following was his reply on one occasion;

“Does not the word ‘love’ basically signify ‘a need’ of some kind, for you love the person, or the thing that satisfies your need? Indeed, the love between man and woman satisfies the need of each for the other whether the need be physical, by way of companionship, or in any other form or manner.  When one finds that the other no longer satisfies the need, ‘love’ first turns to indifference and later on perhaps to ‘hate’.  Why do couples change partners, wedded or otherwise, so often, particularly in the West?  For the simple reason that they no longer seem to satisfy each others need as they did earlier…

…Such a relationship can only occur in a dualistic manifestation of subject-object.  If however, you are thinking in terms of noumenal non-manifestation, which is a state of total subjectivity, (without the slightest touch of anything objective), something which can only be suggested by the subjective pronoun ‘I’, total unicity, which can be conceived only as a state of fullness, wholeness, holiness, no words can be adequate.  And, of course, in that state a love-hate relationship would be quite inconceivable.  Relationship between whom? If, therefore, you are using the word ‘love’ to indicate the noumenal state, this word, like any other word, would be totally inadequate.”